Sunday, February 12, 2006

Of Cupid and curiosities.

Two quick things today. First of all, I commend to you a column by my former Rodale colleague, Renee James, apropos of Valentine's Day and the nature of true love. I have my own feelings on the subject, and wouldn't necessarily buy 100 percent into the argument she seems to be making. But her column is very thoughtful and lyrical, like almost everything Renee writes (even when she's "just being funny"). If you're in a relationship, or hopeful of having one, I urge you to read what Renee writes and think about it. Consider her the anti-Dr. Phil, at least in this context.

Secondly--and not that anyone really cares about Steve's marketing issues--but came an unprecedented event today in SHAM history, and I thought it should be properly commemorated: For the first time that I'm aware of, about an hour ago, the paperback version (not due out till late June) passed the hardcover version in Amazon's sales rankings. Neither book is breaking any records at the moment--both around the century mark. And I have to be honest, I don't quite get why people would order the softcover--then wait almost five months--instead of paying a mere five bucks extra and getting the hardcover in a few days. If something made them suddenly aware of and/or excited about SHAM, wouldn't they want to read it as soon as possible? Maybe they just don't realize which one they're buying. In any case, I'm hoping this is just a temporary aberration, because if it isn't, I don't think that's very good news for the hardcover...

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Read the column, not as impressed with it as you seem to be. I don't get the analogy in the first place. And it's a little-smarmy? The whole thing about staying the course even through rough seas, etc. So you're supposed to waste your life away in a bad marriage? Seems silly and frankly almost foolishly romantic to me in its own way. Sorry.

Anonymous said...

I can't imagine anyone staying in a marriage because they promised they would. Because of a shared history, sure. But a promise? And as for not knowing any couples who weren't sad to get divorced, maybe Renee has been fortunate enough not to know any divorces in which one partner left the marriage for someone else...

Anonymous said...

i just want to say shame on the two of you! (previous commenters) ms. james is letter-perfect in the sentiments she voices. if more of us thought like that we wouldnt have the sad situation we have today with divorce and disposable relationships, not to mention all the blamless children left without two parents in the wreckage of all this! kudos to you, renee!

Anonymous said...

Goodness, anonymous #3! Your sweetness-and-light message would carry a bit more weight had you chosen to simply say it without first attacking the first two anonymouses for expressing their own, presumably equally sincere and heartfelt, opinions...

Steve Salerno said...

Ooooh, some feistiness rears its head on SHAMblog! I love it. Too bad all of our various posters don't have actual blog-IDs. How much more fun it would be to see the regulars take each other to task, by name... (devilish wink)

acd said...

Okay, people. A little compromise. No need to be overly cynical. And just as important, there's no need to overly romanticize everything. Granted some couples do throw their love away when even slight discord arises. But just as often, people who don't belong together stay together. Yes, divorce causes a lot of pain for both parties as well as the children, but sometimes it is for the best. Spouses should, of course, learn to work through their problems if they can. However, they should also accept that occasionally some problems cannot be solved. It is just as unhealthy to stay in a doomed relationship as it is to consistently leave those that may have more potential.

Anonymous said...

Kudos, ACD! Good sense in action. Thanks!