Wednesday, July 12, 2006

I guess Tony was limited by his beliefs.

"MY MARRIAGE was on the rocks and I was at my lowest point. I took the technologies I learned from Tony and learned that I was only limited by my beliefs. Thank you for helping me to become a more loving husband."

So asserts one Marion Miller, sales rep from Middlebury, Indiana, in the headline testimonial from the latest in TR's seemingly endless series of SHAMspams to those of us on his mailing list.

What I would ask is this: If Tony is so good at showing ordinary folk how to recapture the magic in aging, passion-challenged relationships...why was he not able to bring those same "technologies" to bear in his own life? It wasn't that long ago that when TR spoke the phrase "my wife" at his seminars and on instructional videos, he referred to someone named Becky--his mate of 15 years*--rather than his current wife, Sage. In those days, Sage wasn't even Sage yet, but rather Bonnie, and she had a husband of her very own, named John (Lynch). You may be thinking, "Hey Steve, we all learn from our mistakes. Later on, if we want to share that accumulated wisdom with others, it's not fair to throw those mistakes in our faces." I agree. That's why in some ways I can feel a bit** more sympathy for someone like Dr. Laura, whose most glaring indiscretions are several decades behind her. (Though there are plenty of things to fault her for in the years since...and her sanctimonious tone is a little hard to take, given her personal history.) But in Tony's case, the situations we're talking about weren't that "early." He was 40 years old, and obviously well into his motivational career, when seized by the need to unburden himself of Becky. So for him to strike the pose he strikes nowadays in his relationships materials seems a bit--shall we say--ballsy?

Interestingly enough, Robbins first met each of his wives at one of his seminars. No doubt he unleashed his personal power on them.

* The marriage of Tony and Becky Robbins was officially dissolved in June 2001. The precise timing of his relationship with Sage remains a topic of some dispute, and has been the subject of at least one major (and ultimately successful) libel suit on Robbins' part.
** But just a bit.

10 comments:

Wide Lawns Subservient Worker said...

Great blog idea. And my lord, what kind of a person changes their name to Sage? That act alone demonstrates weirdness and makes her lose credibility to me. Also, I was listening to Dr. Laura yesterday. I plan to post about her later today. What a strange dynamic on her show. Incredibly stupid people call and then she's mean to them and they like it.

David E. Patton said...

All of this whos marrage to who got my head to spinning. Its hard work to stay togather for many years and it seem that people dont want to put in the time.

Steve Salerno said...

Thanks for weighing in, "wide lawns" and DEP. Good commments. Hope you'll keep checking back.

Cosmic Connie said...

Wide Lawns raises an interesting question: what type of person would change her name to Sage? And that for me raises more questions. Would she have nabbed Tony Boy if she had become, instead, Fennel, Oregano or Coriander? Or perhaps she was thinking of the color; sage is a fairly trendy hue these days (sort of the color of US currency, come to think of it). Besides, I don't suppose Taupe, Celeron, Salmon, Sea Foam or Espresso would have the same ring...OTOH, perhaps she just considers herself to be incredibly wise (as in, "The sage is a fool," attr. to Lao Tzu).

Now, seriously...I am the last person to be judgmental about people whose marriages, for one reason or another, do not work out. And fame does often destroy marriages. However, in light of his recent history, it would seem that Tony giving relationship advice is on a par with Dr. Phil giving diet advice. At least Tony isn't sanctimonious like Dr. Laura, but still...would you buy a relationship workshop from this man?

Anonymous said...

I think there's a Western theme park thing going on. Think of the possibilities for Sage and Tony's children: Cheyenne, Sierra, Savannah, Phoenix...

Steve Salerno said...

Sea Foam has intriguing overtones that might be best explored in a different blog. And if we're talking sheer money here, our friend Tzu was wrong; the Sage is clearly no fool. Some years back Business Week estimated TR's annual income at $90 million. I'm betting it's higher now.

Anonymous said...

You know, if I made $90 million--or even, say, $9 million--I'd retire and let the rest of humanity have a chance at making some. It always astonishes me when people just won't quit, no matter how rich they become. But it certainly lends credence to their claims that "they're not in it for the money"! (For the adulation, now--THAT's another story...)

Cosmic Connie said...

Anon is right! Adulation is a drug that can make you high and cloud your judgment (and can even turn you into a prick who discards his wife of fourteen years when a newer, more useful model comes along). And adulation is almost certainly a form of currency that can buy things the rest of us may only dream of.

There are some interesting discussions about Tony Robbins seminars on Rick Ross’s Cult Education Forum (Category: Large Group Awareness Training, "Human Potential" Seminars). But I'd better shut up now, lest I become the target of another libel suit from TR, LOL.

Cosmic Connie said...

Anon makes a good point. Although I do not have firsthand experience of being adored by millions, I would imagine that, for many successful self-help gurus (as well as other famous folks), adulation is like an addictive drug. It is also a form of currency that buys many things hard cash can't buy.

This is not to say that the desire to help others is never a motive of the self-help stars, but sooner or later, too many of them seem to get caught up in their own celebrity. However, they couldn't become a celeb in the first place without those adoring throngs; obviously, they are filling a need.

Rodger Johnson said...

Ah, the money! Sage is no fool. She's probably stashing away some oregano for herself.

$90 mill is a butt-load of money.

Hey, Steve could you send TR an e-mail. Ask if he'll share the wealth -- I still have some student loans and a mortgage to pay off.

Think he'll splurge for that?