Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Writer, tout thyself...

The aforementioned interview is up this morning on The American Spectator. I think it covers the ground that needs covering about as well as I can cover it (and I give much of the credit for that to writer/blogger/social agitator Shawn Macomber, who did a masterful job of leading me through the terrain). As always, reactions and comments invited....

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Steve, hey nice job and very funny in spots. But the vocab, man! Do you actually work at it to be obscure? Anyway Merry Xmas to you and yours .
-Carl

Cosmic Connie said...

I didn't find it obscure at all. I think you made your points very well, Steve. And your closing statement says in a nutshell what is so profoundly exasperating about corporate America's love affair with SHAM:

"In a society that lives and dies by statistics calibrated to the ninth decimal place, the same corporations that demand substantiation when shipping-and-receiving wants to switch to a new twine supplier will commit a half-million dollars to a one-day motivational extravaganza and never even attempt to reckon the cost-effectiveness. I find that mind-boggling."

I find it mind-boggling too.

Trish Ryan said...

Wow Steve, great job - and I'm not just saying that so your feelings won't be hurt :)

It made me think that your next book could be called SHAME, chronicling the lives of people who have devoted 5,10, 20 years to these types of programs yet still live lonely, unfulfilled lives. They are legion.

(And there's probably a program out there that would explain why I have such a compulsion to suggests your next book titles, but whatever. You're right that no one else is raising this conversation, which means that you need to write more!)

Anonymous said...

Steve, read the interview on Spectator, very nice. I'm going to give the book a try and I'll let you know what I think. Nice blog, by the way.

a/good/lysstener said...

Very impressive, Steve, not that I'm surprised by now. Without wanting to open that whole sore all over again, I see many of the tendencies you describe in my friends. They expect so little from boys, having already grown cynical about relationships despite their youth, and yet at the same time they're ready and willing to walk out of a relationship at the drop of a hat. I want to scream at them WELL WHICH IS IT??? You'd think that if they're really that cynical at least they'd have lower expectations and be able to let more stuff just roll off their backs, but it's just the opposite! They claim there's no such thing as perfection or anything even resembling perfection when it comes to boys/men and relationships, but they run their dating lives as if perfection is the only thing they'll accept. And they wonder why they're usually miserable and unfulfilled.

acd said...

Just because people are cynical about something does not mean that they will avoid it entirely. When it comes to relationships, the thought of never being in one seems worse than dealing with all the imperfections that go along with them. So people will still try to make the best of it, despite how hopeless it seems. However, it's important to realize that even though the girls you mention are cynical, it does not make them any more likely to accept what they are cynical about. Otherwise, they would not be so bitter and would be more accepting of the faults of others. So when cynical people lower their standards by going into a relationship that they assume is already doomed to fail, they will still be equally disappointed when the person they are with does whatever they subconsciously expected them to do. Cynicism does not imply acceptance. These types of people are not necessarily leaving a relationship "at the drop of a hat," but they are merely realizing, once again, that they cannot be content when they lower their standards. But then, when they are alone, they realize that they cannot be content that way either. So after they are done with their umpteenth male-bashing session, they'll reach a point of lonely desperation when they will repeat the pattern all over again.

a/good/lysstener said...

Steve, I hope you'll permit me to address this question to "acd": Why do I sense that you're always looking to nitpick what I say, pretty much whatever I say? You're like my version of Steve's "Carl." Either that or it's like you feel you have to explain the whole big wide world to me, as if you alone possess the ultimate wisdom. You did the same thing last time we got into a topic like this, as I recall. And I'm puzzled by it. So you're older than me and you've BTDT, I'm still at a loss to understand the superior and even chiding tone you take in replying to my comments. It almost feels personal somehow. I'm not trying to start a war here, but honestly, what's the deal?

acd said...

I respond to comments on this blog whenever I have thoughts to share on the subject, regardless of who wrote the original comment. I have certainly been critical of other people's thoughts besides just yours. It is inevitable that some regulars on any blog will tend to think very differently about any given topic, and the whole idea, of course, is to share these thoughts, even if others do not agree. Doing so in no way implies that the response is personal in nature. If you disagree with the points I make, then you are free to defend your ideas, and I will not take it personally.