Saturday, October 20, 2007

Inside man.

Was surprised late yesterday to find an email from John Carinci, author of The Power of Being Different, which we discussed this past Wednesday. He feels that I was unfair to him and his book. He writes*—and I've even cleaned up his grammar and typing, to be as fair as possible this time around—"Instead of reviewing the self-help book, The Power Of Being Different, the proper way, you get your kicks out of tearing something apart that you haven't read. You may not like the book, but at least read what you want to destroy first. No doubt you have uncovered some real scams in your travels. [NOTE from SS: Uh, yeah. I think it's safe to say that.] Maybe if you understood how much heart and soul goes into writing a work that takes 15 years to finish, or how much a writer pays to self publish and distribute that book himself, you would be slightly kinder. My book has touched many lives already and will touch many more. These people desperately need help and guidance, someone to help them sort it all out and understand life, its challenges, and how to rise above it all. In my more than 50 radio and TV interviews about this book I have touched many thousands of individuals.

"Inspiration is contagious. So is negativity.

"I appreciate what you do, but take a breath and try to put yourself in someone else's shoes. Yes, you can tear anything apart if you look hard enough at it. But I am very proud of what little I can accomplish with the positive messages of my book. I only wish I could touch many more lives, because I know that those individuals will in turn will touch many more lives.

"Never, ever did I set out to make money with the self-help book. [NOTE: Say what?] Rather, my goal has always been to give back to society, to the average person whose life seems to be spinning out of control.

"So, try to touch someone in the future with encouragement."

He then concludes with a quote from someone he identifies as "Carnage": "I look for the gold, not the dirt..." He means Carnegie.** OK, I know I said I cleaned up the typos, but in this case I couldn't resist. I mean...carnage?

In a later email, Carinci adds, "I know the book is Very Special. [NOTE: That's what you do to indicate that something is Really Special. You Capitalize the Initial Letters.] Rev. Bob Richards, Olympic Champion, Wheaties box, motivational speaker, writer (The Heart Of A Champion, etc.), told me, 'your book was one of the best motivational books I have ever read.' It was Bob who, while giving a motivational seminar 30 years ago, touched me profoundly and turned my life and attitude around. I was age 21. It moved me to write an article, years ago, explaining how I was able to change my life by changing the way I think. I'll attach a copy of the article [NOTE: he did] just so you can take a look inside my head for a moment. You'll see why I want to give back to society... Thanks for keeping an open mind."

Stay tuned. I may have more to say on this once I finish looking inside the man's head.

* As is always the case when I receive emails off-blog, I obtained John Carinci's permission to publish this. Actually, let me be more clear: I don't always seek Carinci's permission; it depends on who writes to me. :)
(If you're scratching your head right now, I admit, it's a lame joke.)

** And it may surprise you to know that it's Andrew, not Dale, this time around.

2 comments:

gregory said...

my first take on your original post was that this was a person whose second language was english, and like a lot of immigrants i have encountered, had a high belief in the "american way, and had a strong desire to communicate something that clearly many people's lives demonstrate they are in need of....

so i went to his site, listened to his radio broadcast - no discernible accent, probably a native speaker - and left it with the feeling that he had more sincerity than intellectual acumen and writing and design skills, and perhaps dyslexic...

i did not feel that he was out to get me, or to stuff something down my throat, or threaten me, or take my money - he came across as well-intentioned and not very skilled...

after reading today's post, i have the same opinion of him, and that there is nothing to mock about him, he is trying to do what he can do, and if he did something else, he would be someone else...

here is a quote from an article on how to tell if someone is enlightened... from the site www.shiningworld.com ....

"The history of spiritual culture is not only the history of great triumphs it is the history of the wretched excesses of fools who turned ordinary people into capricious Gods and then suffered at the hands of their self created deities."

My point with this quote (the whole article is worthwhile) is to suggest that we give away our authority even in the very act of trying to protect ourselves from shammers, and often seem too willing to adopt a victim mentality when encountering them, rather than taking responsibility for what comes to us and what we do with it...

Cosmic Connie said...

Gregory makes some good points, and I can certainly sympathize with Mr. Carinci, regarding the hard work and expense involved in writing and self-publishing a book. Even so, it seems clear that his book could have benefited had he hired a professional editor before going to press. I'm not trolling for work here; I'm only saying that even the most sincere and potentially inspirational message will be compromised, and perhaps even lost altogether, if it is unprofessionally presented.