Friday, April 24, 2015

How can these people be texting if they're from the 1800s?

This story [sic], "I Can Sum Up My Marriage in These 11 Texts I've Sent My Husband," is getting major play in social media today, and I'm dumbfounded. I particularly don't get the "attagirls" it's eliciting from other housewives, who just seem to think it's such a hoot. (One woman on Facebook commented that she was "peeing myself" as she read it.) Is this really how today's women see marriage and life?

The author, Susannah B. Lewis, does not appear to be 87 years old, but that's certainly how she sounds. 

For one thing, we're still in that dark place where it's the husband's role to seek nonstop sex and it's the wife's role to try to fend him off? More pointedly, one gathers from Example No. 6 that (a) men compliment their wives only in an effort to get laid, (b) women will not have sex when they're menstruating, and (c) in any case men are put off by the mere idea of boinking a menstruating partner. This is in 2014, we're talking? I suppose it would shock Ms. Lewis to her bloody core that some guys consider it an uber-turn-on to have sex at "that time of the month," up to and including mutual oral?

The bigger point, though, is the cliched nature of the back and forth, and the archaic mentality it represents. Her name may be Lewis, but this can only be a Duggar woman.


renee james said...

Like you, I don't get it. I really don't. I loved the construct; the content was ... underwhelming. This is what passes for clever? I give up.

Steve Salerno said...

Renee, welcome back. What's even worse to me than the "absence of clever" is that it just possibly represents the state of this woman's marriage...or, even more tragically, the state of marriage. Even though John Gray clearly struck a chord with his books, I have always loathed the Mars/Venus paradigm and its overriding implication that we just don't get each other and can never really "meet" on common ground. As you know I'm not a big fan of the Unisex approach to modern society, either, but pieces like this almost suggest that marriage is a never-ending tug of war between two entirely different species. I just don't buy it...and if it resonates as Truth to that many women, that's even sadder to me.

renee james said...

DO NOT get me started on Mars/Venus. I once wrote a piece about how women are from the US / men are from Canada. In other words, not an entirely different planet for God's sake but then again, something will show up every once in a while that makes you stop and think: Oh yeah! He's Canadian! I get it. I think. :)

Steve Salerno said...

See, now that's clever. You ever think of doing more writing? ;)